Two Questions to ask Your Tween Everyday to Help Them Grow In Christ

Two Questions to ask your tweens everyday. (Honestly these are great questions to ask yourself and your older children as well.)

Question 1: What did the Lord teach you in your Bible reading this morning?

When children hit a certain age and start reading the Bible faithfully, it can often become a “checking it off the list thing,” and very unenjoyable because they often don’t understand what they are reading.

When we reached this dilemma, I was really stuck with how to fix this. “Lord help!” And the Lord reminded me about my gratitude journal. It’s kind of random, but hear me out. As I kept a gratitude journal faithfully each evening, even when I didn’t “feel” thankful, I found myself beginning to LOOK for things throughout my days to be thankful for, and telling myself I wanted to write that down when I pulled my journal out later that evening. And when I began looking, I began finding.

This same concept could be applied to coming to God’s Word every single day. The Lord promises when we seek Him, we WILL find Him. Armed with the promises of these “seek and ye shall find” verses, we decided that each day, we’d share what God has taught us from His Word, and guess what?! Knowing that we are going to have to share, we began earnestly LOOKING. Since we started this, my tween is LOVING her time in God’s Word and is making it a priority because she’s enjoying it so much! Thank you Lord for this idea!

***If you’re looking for a good Bible study for your tweens, we love Not Consumed. The “Obey” study is pictured here.

Question 2: Who were you a blessing to in the last 24 hours?

“Make me a blessing,” is a prayer we pray in our home every single day. It’s one thing to pray it, another thing for the Lord to put someone in your path to bless, and COMPLETELY ANOTHER THING to actually ACT on it.

The Lord calls us to first love Him with all of our heart, soul and mind, and then to love our neighbor as ourselves. If we have those two things down, everything else will fall into place. (See Matthew 22:36-40)

We Christians often do well showing up for our time with Him every day and “loving Him,” but when it comes to meeting needs and blessing others… It’s always…not enough time, not enough energy, too busy, I’ll do it later (and then forget). Hmmm…we might not actually be doing too well on this one.

The Lord has shown us time and time again that there are ALWAYS opportunities to bless people…it could be as simple as sending a text to let someone know that we’re praying for them or as simple as a child making a coffee for mom when she is behind in the morning, but we sadly just ignore the opportunity and go on our merry way.

“For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.” Philippians 2:13

When my friend shared this verse with me about a year ago in light of blessing people, I realized that my ideas to bless people are not my ideas, but instead a prompting from the Holy Spirit to bless someone. When I don’t follow through, that is called DISOBEDIENCE! Ouch!

Just like the gratitude example in the previous point, simply asking this question spurs us on to LOOK for (and act on) ways to help someone each day. We see answers to prayer every day as God gives us opportunities to “do of His good pleasure,” and He gets the glory for both the ideas and the “power” to see the ideas through.

We ask both of these questions during family devotions, and they’ve been a huge game changer for us!