The author explains through the book that God’s way—His love and respect “cycle”—is the best way! There were so many powerful nuggets in this book. Key takeaway—in the end, we love and respect our spouses because we are ultimately obeying the Lord, not because our spouse “deserves” it. There are many criticisms of this book. Some things to remember: This book is written for healthy marriages AND both husbands and wives need to be loved and respected. If you read with these things in mind, you may still find the book helpful. This book is for you if you need a reminder of pure Biblical truths for marriage.