Welcome to Womanhood Celebration—An Introduction

Any sort of puberty or sexual conversation can strike terror in a mother’s heart, but it truly does not need to be this way.

The first step is to change our OWN mindset. 

How do you tell a little girl she’s going to have a monthly cycle for many years of her life, and it’s going to be accompanied by cramps and headaches and maybe even worse! Yay!

Uggh! What an impossibility! How do you make it a beautiful, special thing for her when it’s nothing of the sort for yourself? When my mom told me about a monthly cycle all those years ago, I got spittin’ angry and said I wanted nothing to do with growing up! Unfortunately, (or should I say thankfully) I had no choice. Time kept marching along. New signs of adolescence kept appearing…and eventually the dreaded cycle began. And here I am, 25 years later, with whacked out hormones, years of endless infertility, multiple doctor visits to no avail…all related to that one little simple word…period. How am I supposed to make THAT appealing to a little girl who’s barely double digits?!

It took some mind set adjusting, some real thought as to what is going on in our world, and one good God to help me realize that a period is an INCREDIBLE GIFT! Truly…a gift from the Lord to safely grow precious, little miracles made in HIS image. Little miracles to nurture, to protect, to train for many years, and then watch them transform like a fuzzy little helpless caterpillar into a beautiful butterfly ready to launch out into the big world!

What other creation on planet earth gets to grow miracle babies in His image?! None. Only the very special woman.

Satan hates and wants to destroy every good thing the Lord has made. His attack on the family is overwhelmingly evident in our world today. His attack on something as simple as a monthly cycle…puberty blockers, testosterone shots, you name it. These woman DON’T WANT A PERIOD…they don’t want babies. They don’t want to be a woman at all. Why? Because they hate God. They hate everything that has to do with God. And periods have to do with God because He is the one who came up with such an amazing design. A woman cannot grow a baby any other way!

And if the devil wants to destroy what the Lord has made, then it’s our job as followers of Christ to do everything we can to PROTECT and PRESERVE the sacred calling of a WOMAN. So, in our home sweet homes, we should strive as much as possible to infuse our girls and our boys (God’s image bearers) with the beauty of His plan. To be a woman is a special gift…a unique calling. Raising beautiful, godly girls who ARE thankful for the role they get to play in God’s creation plan, is how we fight the battle in our modern world.

And this is why we choose to CELEBRATE it!

Finding the beauty and making womanhood attractive to my own daughter has been my quest over the last few years as signs of growing up begin to peek out. I wanted the conversation to be beautiful. I wanted it to be special. I for sure didn’t want it to be scary! And most of all, I wanted her to know that she is “fearfully and wonderfully made,” by a GOOD GOD who has a very special plan for her life.

So mama, no more, “Uggh! I hate monthly cycles!!!!!!” Instead, let it be, “Thank you Lord, for the gift of a monthly cycle. Because of that, I was able to nurture and grow this beautiful little girl, made in your image, whom I now have the very SPECIAL privilege of teaching your amazing design for her unique body.”

The Conversation Begins as Soon as They can Talk

I know many here have girls on the brink of puberty, but many more have toddlers and preschoolers, and I want you to know that THAT AGE is where the conversation starts.

Kids ask the most embarrassing questions. Don’t laugh it off and not give an answer. You can answer young children in very age-appropriate ways, and it literally is no big deal to them.

“Mom, how do babies come out?”

“Well, honey, they grow in the womb and come out of a place called a birth canal.”

It’s that simple when they’re preschool age.

Become a pro at answering awkward questions well. Allow conversation to happen around those questions. Build a relationship around those questions. And always finish a conversation by telling them they are more than welcome to come to you ANY TIME they are wondering about something. This gives your children reason to come to YOU with the questions they have and not feel embarrassed to ask. They should KNOW that you are a safe place to come to, that they can talk to you about ANYTHING and that you WILL answer them as best you can. Drip, drip, drip this conversation throughout their little lives, and you’ll know when it’s time to go a little deeper.

Children are curious though, and they always want to know more. Sometimes, especially as they start reaching those middle years and older, your answer doesn’t suffice, and that’s when I pull a card out of Corrie ten Boom’s father’s pocket. And it works amazingly well. For the questions I can’t answer quite yet, I always share this story about when Corrie asked her father a question he couldn’t give an answer for at her age:

“He turned to look at me, as he always did when answering a question, but to my surprise he said nothing. At last he stood up, lifted his traveling case off the floor and set it on the floor.

”Will you carry it off the train, Corrie?” he said.

I stood up and tugged at it. It was crammed with the watches and spare parts he had purchased that morning.

”It’s too heavy,” I said.

”Yes,” he said, “and it would be a pretty poor father who would ask his little girl to carry such a load. It’s the same way, Corrie, with knowledge. Some knowledge is too heavy for children. When you are older and stronger, you can bear it. For now you must trust me to carry it for you.”

~Corrie Ten Boom

I have told this story to my daughter many times. In fact, after sharing something with her in our Welcome to Womanhood Celebration, she asked, “Is there more for you to tell me later?” When I assured her that, yes, there was, she said, “Oh, it’s one of those ‘you carrying the suitcase things?’”

She gets it, and she’s satisfied with that.

It really Comes Down to Relationship

This conversation really thrives on a good relationship with your children. If you’ve been listening to all their prattling, answering all of their crazy questions, playing with them often, just being there for them always and tying those heart strings their entire lives, the puberty conversation, although a little awkward for us parents, is just a natural (and healthy) next step for them. It really is no big deal.

The Welcome to Womanhood Celebration

You’ve been building a relationship with that little girl from the day you brought her home from the hospital. You’ve been answering all of her awkward questions as best you can, you’ve been watching her blossom into a beautiful young lady all too fast. And now it’s time for the conversation you’ve been dreading!

Relax! It’s actually something to really look forward to! If done right, it’s a really exciting time for both you and your daughter!

To get started, you’ll want to get yourself a copy of the book Before Your Tween Daughter Becomes a Woman. (Amazon Affiliate) It is full of great ideas to come up with a fun little celebration of your own!

And if you need help with the puberty conversation, get yourself a copy of Growing up With God, Level 1, by Gather Round Homeschool. (They offer the study for both girls and boys!) I have done a lot of research to find a good fit for our family. So many books have struck out, but this little study has been the perfect thing for us! It is well written, tastefully illustrated, and most importantly, glorifying to God in His beautiful plan for our bodies. Another benefit is that the lessons do not share about the opposite genders. There are three levels, so they can grow with your girl as you’re ready. (I’ve only previewed level 1, but have high hopes for future levels.) The lessons are written for your child to go through by herself, but I’ve preferred to go through the lessons out of order with my own daughter as she’s ready for them. So far the lessons we’ve gone through together have been really well done, and I’m happy to finally be able to recommend something that’s so needed in our up-side-down world.

I am all about having those continual open conversations, but I sure am happy for a tool like this to help me cover all the bases and make sure I’m not missing anything important all while being done from a Biblical perspective.

Now it’s time to do some planning of your own!

Happy planning a wonderful womanhood celebration for that beautiful girl of yours! She’s growing up too quickly! Don’t miss your opportunity!

Sarah

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